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It turns out I had a lot more to say than I expected, and this doc got lengthy. In cases where I do not know the answer to a question, I know who to ask or where to find the answer. Dominant titles are always capitalized. Correct: He is a Dominant. Incorrect: He is a Dominate. There are professional submissives too. They can be tailored to the couple as needed, depending on their individual kinks and limits.

They generally keep the majority of the power exchange in the bedroom, but do incorporate it into other aspects of daily life as well, as needed or desired. There is a negotiation period in the beginning, in which likes and dislikes are discussed, as well as the expectations of both parties. This sort of dynamic requires immense levels of trust and mutual respect, as well as constant communication. Their dynamic permeates every area of their lives. It is not for the faint of heart. Usually tends to be more of a loving, caretaking type of play. Nor does it indicate that they will ever become one.

This dynamic involves age regression play, in which the submissive party finds peace and comfort in behaving like or teen. Online only or long distance: Also very common in the BDSM community and comes with its own set of parameters, which are specific to each couple. Reasons for having this kind of dynamic: Limited of options in their area, very small local BDSM community, etc.

They are in a vanilla relationship and are going outside of it to have their power exchange needs met either with or without the knowledge and approval of their vanilla partner. Note: This also happens a lot, but the first relationship usually takes precedence in any conflict that may arise. They may or may not ever meet the other party in person. Domestic Discipline: This term describes a couple who incorporate power exchange into their relationship without sex. The sex is vanilla, but the submissive party generally the wife is expected to follow certain rules and protocols.

In the community, this is commonly referred to as a s-style relationship. The husband is in charge, spanks the wife for misbehavior, acts as the head of the family, etc. Reasons for preferring this setup are sometimes religious in nature. Even in a training scenario, there should really be no sex involved. This goes hand in hand with the platonic thing, but there is another reason. Simply put, the person best suited to help someone understand that part of themselves is a person who shares the trait. They are a mediator only. Collar etiquette: There are a of different types of collars, broken down and deated according to the status of the relationship.

As such, they should never be revoked or removed as a punishment. Removing a collar ifies the end of a relationship. A collar should never be removed by the sub unless for some sort of emergency or if they themselves are putting an end to their relationship. General info about rules, punishments, contracts, negotiations, and protocols: Rules : Cannot be implemented or enforced until after the submissive has consented or agreed to follow them. For example, a Dom cannot hold the sub able for any rules that were broken before the official beginning of their dynamic.

A Dom who attempts to punish a sub before having that consent is at best a fake and at worst an abuser. If the Dom truly wishes to correct a behavior, they have to be more creative than that. Most prefer verbal agreements and simply make physical lists of their likes and limits that can be referenced or altered as the need arises. What they consist of or whether they are used at all is more a reflection of the people in the dynamic and their preferences. Some feel they are necessary, others feel that the open communication that should be happening consistently makes a contract obsolete.

Negotiations : These can be as formal or informal as the parties like, but the bottom line is that there has to be a clear agreement from both parties. More specifically, the sub has to consent to every part of the dynamic before they can be expected to submit or be held able for any rules broken. Protocols There are too many to list, and they vary from one dynamic to the next. Some examples of protocols: A sub should address only their Dominant by a title. Caveat: The community seems to be split on this subject.

Some think that sort of respect should be given to any professed D-type. Others think titles should only be granted to those who have earned them. Respect across the board — There is a sort of honor code at work in many facets of the lifestyle, including but not limited to discretion and respect for boundaries.

It implies manipulation or even coercion on the part of the sub. After that, a dynamic can be whatever its participants want it to be. Such as withholding affection or pleasure, etc. This breaks down in many ways. One example could be refraining from engaging in a scene while under the influence of alcohol or other substances.

What makes a good sub? They simply show their love in unconventional ways. If a person is truly Dominant or submissive, it is an inherent part of their personality. Could be anything being a writer, love of art or music, etc.

Would you be willing to do that? If that were the case, would that person truly be the right person for you? As a fanfiction writer or just a writer in general — challenge yourself to fix what ELJ got wrong rather than perpetuate it. Write a better story.

A submissive is not a categorically weak person, nor do they all suffer from some sort of mental illness. On the contrary, they must be stronger than their vanilla counterparts in many ways because they have to place their absolute trust in another person. Doms and subs have high expectations from and for their partners, but they are still human. They make mistakes, but they take responsibility for them. They can suffer from anxiety or depression just like everyone else. They may take care of their partners a little differently under such circumstances, but they should always be placing the needs of their partners above their own.

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